Holiday Season is upon us so are gift searching adventures. As parents we hope to find “that special” gift to get “that special look” on our kids faces faces. What if I tell you that child’s love language has a lot to do with what gifts they hope to get.
Are you familiar with the 5 Languages of Love? Do you know your own love language? Chances are, if you aren’t aware of your own, you probably don’t know your child’s either. You can find out what your love language is by taking this quiz here.
The 5 Love Languages are:
- Words of Affirmation. This uses words to affirm other people. “You did a difficult job really well.” “That test was hard, but you did great!”
- Acts of Service. This means actions speak louder than words. For example, making your child’s bed up with fresh sheets so they can come home to a cozy environment after a bad day.
- Receiving Gifts. This may be an obvious one, but this is when buying a book or something special for your child because they got a good grade shows how proud you are of them.
- Quality Time. This is simply just spending time with your child. It could be watching a movie, reading side by side, or even cooking together.
- Physical Touch. This means hugs or holding hands shows your child you care.
It is important to know that not everyone has the same love language. Just because you enjoy getting a high five when you do well doesn’t mean your child sees things the same way. You should be curious and open minded when it comes to learning what your child’s love language is.
Though it is not always easy to just ask outright what a person’s love language is, you can learn by observation. You may tell your child they did great on that project, but that may not mean much because those are just words. They may understand that you are proud of them better when you make them a special dinner.
By knowing your child’s love language, you can show them appreciation for them in the way they like to be appreciated. You can show them they are loved, but show them in the way they will understand it. You have a better understanding of the emotional needs of your child when you know how to show them love.